Ask April Masini[b]Trudy
It sounds, however, that you’re mad at yourself for spending time with him. For future, you might feel better about things if you understand that when you accept a lunch date with a guy, he may very well be looking for a long term relationship. That you weren’t, means you were incompatible from day one! His wanting to see you several times a week may have been an awkward statement on his part, but he was being clear with you that he wanted a more serious relationship. That could have been your cue to end the relationship there.
His response about your ex-boyfriend’s ability in bed was rude — but consistent! This guy was awkward when he told you he wanted to date you two to three times a week. Some people miss social cues, and he may be a prize winner in that category! That he wanted to buy you a Christmas present was actually very sweet — it’s not inappropriate to give someone you’re casually dating a gift. I think you felt uncomfortable because the two of you were incompatible from day one, and you kept going out or keeping in touch, hoping that each other would change.
I don’t think you’re hyper-sensitive, but I think you’re angry at yourself for wasting time with someone who isn’t compatible and you’re blaming him instead of yourself. Dating is a numbers game, and you have to meet people and decide if they’re your Mr. Right or not. When you know they’re not, it’s a good idea to move on so you don’t waste your time — or theirs.
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