sekai333
I’m just giving you a heads up, that this is going to be a very long post. Because my boyfriend and I just broke up today. And I am beyond confused.
We had a really long talk today and he started off by telling me how he realized how much he has changed. He told me that he’s angry a lot compared to when we first started dating. He also told me that he wanted me to grow up, and learn to be more mature and understanding. We were both crying at this point, and he said “I’m not capable of fixing a relationship right now. I don’t want to be with anyone right now. I’m not breaking up with you because I want to leave you, I’m breaking up with you because I think it’s the best for you, and for us. I want us to spend this time away from each other to make ourselves a better person. I want to see change in us. And The only way to do it is to break up.” So, I asked him “Why does it have to be an official break up? Why can’t it be a break like last time?” (The last time we took a break, it didn’t go so well. The first break, we just tried not to talk to each other, but we ended up talking to each other and figuring things out. So we decided to take another break a few months later. One day he sends me a text, saying that he’s feeling really lost and empty, and that he needs me, and if it’s okay if he comes and visits me. So he did. He came over to my house, we talked, and we decided that we’re doing okay and that we don’t need a break.) He said “A break isn’t going to work. We tried doing that and we kept talking to each other. He said he wanted an official break up because he thinks it will help to know that we actually won’t be there for each other, now that we are separated. He said he wants to see change in the both of us. He wants me to change so that I would be more mature, and be more understanding. He wants to see himself change so that he won’t be so angry all the time. He just said “Right now, I can’t fix anything, and I can’t be the one to make you happy. Hopefully this time apart will do us good, and in hopes of us getting back together. To be honest, I can see us getting back together again, but right now, I think this is the right thing to do for the both of us.” So before he left, I said “I’m going to do my best so that I can become a better person for us”. And he said “We’ll see. Because we never know what’s going to happen.” And that just confused me.
To me, it sounded like he wanted to have an official break up so that we can spend time on ourselves, and to improve ourselves, so we can come back to each other and make a relationship that was better than before. I was so confused that I asked him “How are you going to see the change if we’re not going to be together anymore?” And he said “Just because we’re not together anymore, doesn’t mean I’m not going to talk to you, and it doesn’t mean I’m never going to see you again.” That confused me even more. To me, it sounds like he wants to fix this relationship without being with each other. I just don’t know if I’m allowed to wait for him. I don’t know if I should wait for a day for us to get back together again. I don’t know what to expect, and I don’t know what to do. Please, I need some help, big time.
Sincerely, Confused.
