[Ask April Masini]

Do not ask him out again — it’s always a mistake to ask a guy out and pursue him like you are. The first reason this is a mistake is because you’re taking the opportunity away from him. Men love to be the ones to pursue women. When you take this pleasure away from him, he’s never going to feel like he’s won you over by chasing and capturing you. He’s going to feel like you hurled yourself at him, and he’s gone home with the booby prize. He’ll keep looking for someone less attainable to chase.

The other reason you shouldn’t ask him out or ask for a hug or a kiss or anything else is because you start wondering if he likes you or why he isn’t asking you out again because you’ve had a nice time when you are together. Trust me: if a man wants to date you — HE WILL! If this guy wants to date you’ll he’ll ask you out. If he doesn’t want to date you he won’t. He may go out with you when you pursue him because he’s bored, he may be able to get sex with you (men have sex because they can — not because they necessarily like you), you may have cute friends he can date later, or he has nothing else to do.

My advice is to let go of this guy. If he asks you out, great. If he doesn’t it will be okay because you’re going to be looking out for other men to date — right? Right! 😆

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