Trust your instincts. You’re probably right that she will not let him go and will not only go back to him again and again, but involve you in a triangle that you shouldn’t be in. Women who stay in abusive relationships have a very hard time breaking the cycle of abuse. It’s great that you want to help her, but sometimes towing a hard line, like telling her you can’t be friends with her if she continues to see a man who physically abused her instead of reporting him to the police so that he won’t hurt her or anyone else, is better than enabling her. She needs to take responsibility for her part in any relationship and she’s telling you straight out that she’s not done with this guy who is abusive.
My advice is to move on and find a woman who has a healthier outlook on relationships and who can bring you a lot more joy and less pain.
I hope that helps.
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