dundeealso you mention that she is potentially using me:
lets first assume that she hasnt cheated on me , just maybe thought about it a bit. when i have insinuated her using me, she replies: she cleans the house, cooks the meals, does the shopping (we split the bill). why am i so ungrateful and what do i do?
in fact she got daily shoulder or foot massages from me . i also had to , often spend the whole evening listening to her vent about her work colleagues,or family, often while she drank a whole bottle of wine and carried on and on.(often at least 3 times week.i would drive her wherever she wanted to go. i was there for her whenever she needed me and would even go and visit her aunt with her and lsiten to their conversation while they smoked and drank late into the night. i introduced her to all my friends and they made lots of effort to be friends with her.
she would be friends to their face but often would tell me that she is too intellectual for them.for her thirtieth birthday a booked the most expensive restaurant in the city and she turned up at home at 22h00 from visiting her aunt (as she said she missed her mother) . her aunt later confirmed this.
in reply to her cleaning the house, she is obsessive with cleaning and would be so even if i wasnt here. as for cooking she would cook maybe once a week, act like it was a masterpiece and i would say how much i appreciate it. then once finished she would ask me again did i enjoy it. i would say yes i did thanks, and alway she woudl get angry that i didnt praise her more. she hardly ate due to her urticaria so it was ‘all done for me’. anyway hope this gives you more of a picture. thanks for bothering to read this, i am really hurting and it helps to have your opinion , no matter what it is…!
