This a flashing yellow light in your relationship, but right now, it is not a deal breaker. No, he should not have been talking to his ex-girlfriend so frequently if he was happy in his relationship with you. And no, he should not have felt like he needed to hide this secret friendship from you.
That said, it doesn’t sound like they dated recently, slept together, or talked as anything other than secret friends. Because you have a child with this man, I think you have a lot more at risk than if you didn’t, so my suggestion is that you make sure you’re keeping up your part of the relationship bargain. Are you giving him something wonderful to come home to at night? 😎 Are you still at all enticing, fun and sexy — even with a new baby?
My advice is to work on the relationship and specifically, to do YOUR part by being the woman who wins your man back. Don’t forget that although you have a child together, you are still a woman, and he is looking for womanly companionship — not just being with the mother of his child. Dial up your sex life and your sex appeal, and see if that doesn’t help things.
Let me know if that helps, and how it all goes.
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