[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear about your problems with your marriage, but it’s quite obvious that you’ll need to figure out what the heck it is that you want.

Obviously, you want sex – and you need it for an intimate, physical connection. That’s something that is highly important to most men – and women 😉 .

However, it’s not unusual for women to lose sexual desire for many reasons over time. Personal life and work stresses, a disconnect in your marriage, maybe even just lack of confidence, or lack of satisfaction about sex that has gone unresolved.

I’m going to assume that you spoke to your wife about her lack of sexual interest, correct?

Putting up with sex will make anyone want to cheat. I am actually new to this site, so I don’t know you enough to gloat in you eating your words, but I understand exactly how your feelings and actions can change.

Figure out what would happen if your wife discovered your affair. Figure out what life is like without her as your wife. Perhaps you love her, but the lack of sex has left you both married “friends”. If that’s the case, it might make you miserable to let her go, but if your stepping outside of your marital connection and don’t see any other way to “deal” with your issues, how fair is that to her? Perhaps if she knew about it, she might not like it but may still accept it over being caught in the dark.