This is only confusing because you’re not listening to him. 😳 He doesn’t want to be in the relationship. 🙁 He doesn’t want a serious relationship with you. He doesn’t want to hurt you — but unless you take care of yourself, he’s not going to and you will get hurt even more. Your job is to understand that he’s giving you [i]a clear message[/i] that he wants to move on. Stop clinging to any nice thing he says to you or any sex you have after he’s told you he doesn’t want things to be the same any more. Men have sex because they can. Women look for emotional attachment in sex. Understand the difference — and how it’s hurting you.
Now, you have to decide if you want to find Mr. Right or not, because if you do, and I’m assuming that’s why you’re here, you have to move out, let go of someone who IS NOT your best friend — he’s your future ex-boyfriend — and move on alone (for now).
Breaking up is hard to do, but when you try to talk yourself out of what’s really happening, YOU’RE the one who is confusing the situation and setting yourself up for even more heartbreak because you’re dragging out the inevitable.
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