You can’t make someone be who they’re not. It’s easy for you to understand what you want, but when you tell him (and I’m sure from your post that you’re articulate with him), it goes over his head, in your words. Not surprising. He isn’t someone who’s affectionate or sexual the way you are. If after a year, at his age of 50, he’s not who you want him to be, stop expecting him to suddenly become someone else. You’re going to make yourself crazy.
Decide if you want to spend your life with him as he is, or not. But don’t take him on as a project. You may be able to get him to wear better ties, but you’re not going to get him to become warm and fuzzy. He’s not that guy.
I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes.
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