Ask April MasiniThe problem with long distance relationships is that the normal rules don’t apply. You met in July and hit it off. Then you met up in Vegas for a few days in August and hit it off again. Then it sounds like you spent six days with him in September when he introduced you to family and friends. But now this month that you’re in Hawaii, which I think is his home base from what you’ve written, you’re not getting any dates from him.
What you have is a bit of a fantasy holiday sex romance and that’s very different from a day to day relationship. I know that you had amazing fun and he even introduced you to his family and friends (always a good sign), but when it comes to having a day to day girlfriend who’s there through the good times and the bad (you mentioned his financial stresses), he’s not as interested in that kind of thing.
When looking for Mr. Right it’s important to find someone who wants the same thing you do. Meeting on vacation is great, but it sounds like he’s looking for more of the same — a vacation girlfriend, not someone with whom to settle down. And I think that’s what you want.
It’s great to have a guy you like, but don’t put all your eggs in this basket. Keep your eyes open, your profile online (if you’re using dating sites) and don’t consider yourself exclusive when that’s not what he’s ready for.
I hope that helps — even though I’m sure it’s not what you wanted to hear.
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