I think there might be some confusion here. I am not inexperienced with dating, I am extremely intelligent and I have several college degrees and I work and continue my education. I am not sure what your knowledge is in the alternate lifestyles community but there are couples that have been involved in swinging and multiple partners that have been together for decades and still going strong. And we didn’t just jump into swinging we thoughtfully weighed the pros and cons of the situation and we both felt this was something we wanted. And it is not that he doesn’t care or love me enough to be monogamous, it is that he loves me enough to share me with close friends. Pleasure is a gift and right. and we were friends before we even started dating. I do on occasion counsel young women who have been taking advantage of or are victims of violence and the mindset is totally different. As are the offenders. I know he loves and honors me. That is not necessarily the question. The only way the lifestyle can work is if both are completely honest and completely loyal and I am starting to think I broke the rules. I just don’t understand where to start to fix it. Thank you so much for helping me 🙂 I read columns and posts here all the time.
