[Ask April Masini]

Threesomes never end well. 😳 In fact, they usually end in a break up, but only[i] after[/i] feelings are hurt and drama ensues. Normally, I don’t think much of age differences, but because you’ve been dating your fiance since you were 19 and he was 47, and he immediately pressed you into “swinging”, it’s pretty clear that he wasn’t interested in you personally as much as he wanted you sexually and he wanted a willing partner for swinging. Your lack of dating experience made you more of an easy mark than someone with more dating under their belt.

Any man who wants you all to himself isn’t going to tell you you can do whatever you want with other men. Your instinct told you this, but you talked yourself out of what you knew deep down.

In fact, you wrote to me: [quote] Don’t Misunderstand me here, we love each other very very much, we are just not jealous and love and trust each other enough that we are able to participate in more daring activities…[/quote]

But clearly that’s not true because he doesn’t trust you with this last guy, and now he wants to separate.

Whether or not you cheated isn’t relevant in a relationship where threesomes are the norm. What’s relevant is that this isn’t working, and was bound to unravel from the beginning.

My advice is to move on and find a man who wants you all to himself and is willing to give all of himself to you. 😀

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