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Re: Do I tell her?

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25yearslater
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Not saying anything to her was definitely the right advice. I agree that creating chaos and messing with other people’s lives is NEVER a good thing. lol I thank you for bringing me back down to earth on that, regardless of the landing.

However, The Mrs. Right thing, well there I’ll remain the skeptic. I think I’ve missed the boat on Mrs. Right, and while dating is always fine, I probably won’t anymore. Because it’s a waste of time. I’ve been doing it with people who have similar interests and circumstances as I do for 3 years now, and it is terribly unfulfilling. I’ve been out with high profile, gorgeous women. I’ve been with down to earth beauty’s, and with women so perfectly matched to my circumstances that you would think we were cut from a puzzle mold waiting to be connected. None of those people have sparked my passion. Sure I could date them, we could help each other, but to what end? In hopes that passion comes? (And as a side note, there are those of us men that find little point in passionless sex, so yeah maybe its fun for a night, but why bother? What if she likes me? – that’s just a p.i.t.a.)

I fear the kind of woman that does spark my passion, is the kind that doesn’t end up in my life circumstance. (40 years old, single with children) She is likely happily married, because someone found her and wisely kept her. She’s too smart to be where I am, or else had no control over it (very rare). This isn’t a slap in the face to divorcee’s (I am one) – it’s just a statement about the kind of woman I’m attracted to.

I’m not going to settle for what’s available and end up in the same circumstance in 10 years. This married woman is the first person to make me feel this in 25 years, and unfortunately for me, I can imagine another 25 going by until someone like her comes along again.

So I guess I’ll just be what I am…

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