[April Masini, your AskApril]

[b]Semantics [/b] couldn’t have said it better. 😀

You’re looking for a black and white answer, but feelings are not that cut and dry. The reality is that men can like women, but still use them. 😳 They can have feelings for a woman, but they can also have bigger feelings for themselves, so that they’ll like you — but they’re not going to take care of your emotions because they don’t like you[i] that[/i] much! Lots of times a man (or a woman) will cheat, and feel badly about it — but his (or her) feelings won’t stop him from cheating. His feelings for himself in the moment he’s cheating are more important to him in that moment than his feelings about the person he’s cheating on.

Having feelings is a very broad term. You can have feelings for your puppy dog or your rose bush or your teacher or your cousin. You can have feelings for a man who you know isn’t husband material and you can have feelings for a man who’s a total prince! The same goes for men.

This guy is using you for sex. And he has feelings for you — but his feelings aren’t strong enough for him to be monogamous with you or to commit to you in any meaningful way. Having feelings for you doesn’t mean he’s not going to use you because the feelings he has for you aren’t that strong. I hope that fleshes it out for you!