[Ask April Masini]

If you’re depressed after the break up of your ten year relationship, it’s understandable that a man’s attention makes you feel good. The problem is that it’s a short term fix. If that’s all your looking for, then you’ve found what you need, but if you’re looking for more than that, a man with a girlfriend who is prone to dysfunction, is not your best bet. 🙁

I really believe that you already know he’s not right for you because he’s with someone else, lives across the country, and has been in a long term dysfunctional relationship — and still is. Those three things in combo make him Mr. Wrong. 😳

The problem you have is that you want a boyfriend and you’re lonely. It’s more work to try and find someone who’s Mr. Right than it is to find someone who’s Mr. RIght Now. I’d love to see you going on actual dates and aiming yourself towards bigger happiness than a band aid feel good fix. I know he’s a long time friend, but those are the guys that fly under the radar because you don’t put them to the same standards you would someone new.

Check out my book, Think & Date Like A Man, that you can purchase at Barnes & Noble, Amazon, or right here at this link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], because I think you’ll get a lot out of it at this time in your life.

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