[Ask April Masini]

Sometimes it’s more confusing when a guy is really nice to you — but doesn’t want more — than if he’s mean or ill mannered and doesn’t want more. Since he told you he’s not ready for a relationship, and you know he’s only three months out of his last relationship, I think you have to believe him and not pursue him even though you want to because you like him so much and have had such a nice time with him.

He may have decided after three dates that you weren’t his cup of tea and rather than tell you he’s not that into you, he’s saying something gentler (albeit more confusing to you). What he may mean to say is, “I had three nice dates, but in getting to know you I realized I don’t want anything more with you because I’m not that interested in you and want to pursue other women.”

Or, he may really mean that he had a great time with you, but really does want to play the field since he’s relatively newly single — and that doesn’t have to do with you as much as it does with him and where he is in this given moment of his life. There was an old Sex and The City episode where the girls talked about finding a guy who’s ready for a relationship being like finding an available taxi cab. If the yellow light isn’t on on the cab, it just won’t stop for you — and in a way, men who are ready for a relationship, and have “their yellow lights on”, are who you want to try and find.

So my advice is that you move on and if he comes back to you for another date, you’ll know it’s a real date and that he’s come around and is interested in YOU and if he doesn’t, he was a guy who was great, but just not ready for a relationship when you were.

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