He kissed another woman while you were broken up, so it’s not fair for you to blame him in any way. This isn’t cheating. That said, I understand why you feel jealous, but it also seems like you are both too young to be together forever right now. Clearly, he wants to experience more of the world, and at some point he’s going to want to experiment with someone else with more than just kissing. This isn’t necessarily a rejection of you — it’s just his desire to experience more of the world before he commits to a marriage like relationship. Some people want to travel the world before they settle in one city with a boyfriend. Some people don’t want to commit to a college boyfriend because they want to see what it’s like to date different types of people first. This isn’t true for everyone, but it sounds like your boyfriend is interested in experimenting and because the two of you care about each other and have been together for the better part of your late teens and early 20s, he hasn’t had the opportunity.
Sometimes people love each other, but aren’t compatible because of these types of differences. It sounds like this is the case with the two of you. He’s afraid to be alone, especially because he loves you and has been with you for so long, but he’s also going to want to try things outside of the relationship, without hurting you — which is impossible. For this reason, I think your relationship has run it’s course for now. Maybe in a few years, after you’ve both dated other people, you’ll realize that you belong together — or else you’ll realize you loved each other when you did, but you’re not supposed to be together in the long run.
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