That’s a simple answer. But it’s the fact that I had someone else while I was with him that keeps me from being certain about whether I should, in fact, just move on. If he was just some guy I was seeing and that little complication had never been a factor, then of course, I would be gone by now. But I know that he did fall for me, I could see it, and know that a serious future crossed his mind.
I thought I could marry this guy, which I’ve never felt before (in my nearly 30 years). In hindsight, it seems obvious that having someone else in the picture for around 7 months while I was with N and not breaking it off would make him think that I wasn’t serious about him (how could it not?) So assuming that he had these insecurities the entire time we were together, and may now not be sure that he can trust me and has some negative feelings about what we had between us, what can I do? Even if it is a lost cause I at least want to know that I gave it a shot rather than wonder if things could have been different had I done things differently.
