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I definately want to be more out going and do things more when we can. I have found a new “me” through this experience and maybe forced me to change to better myself not just for our relationship but as a person that feels better in my own skin for once. I guess I will have to help him with being more verbal when I buy something new to wear or hair style, try new recipes so he can give input and see how productive it would be for me because I do want to know what he does/doesn’t like because I do enjoy giving and try to stay away from the heavy deep conversation that’s only going to overwhelm him.
He’s very boring and seldom comments on what we wants to do except when it comes to eating. He likes to play on the play station, or watch gamers on his phone and goes to the gym. It’s usually me he looks at to make plans for mostly everything. I guess I wish I could know what he needed fulfilling on that he wasn’t getting from our relationship? He’s quite boring actually I’m the one that’s always asking what can we do different, go places even when it came to sex! I am the dominant one and was the one who made the moves when we first got together and he’s always liked that but I wish he would make more of an effort to have sex so I can feel desired and wanted. I’ve tried asking during foreplay on my part to what he likes or would like to try, what feels better, etc. and it’s like pulling teeth! You would think I was the one who should have had the affair! GO FIGURE! He is a little on the vain side, especially now that he’s building muscle he looks really good and I make sure he knows it. It’s getting him to compliment back is the issue, I get compliments all the time especially now with the reduction and weight loss but he’s not very forth coming on that part which I feel he needs to work on. I do show him how much it means to me when he does but getting him to do that for me now especially with what’s happened, I feel like I’m getting punished not insured that he’s committed. Does this make sense?