[Ask April Masini]

Rebuilding trust is very difficult, but it can be done. It requires time, understanding, patience and being uncomfortable when you don’t know everything you want to know.

If your part in the break up was treating him poorly, then it’s time for you to take responsibility for that. If you treat a man poorly, he’s going to stray. You’re not married, and while it’s not very nice for him to cheat on you, you have to understand that men want to feel good about themselves and their relationships, so treat him well if you want him to stick around! 😉

You can also ask him to talk to you about his wanting to leave the relationship before he does it. After seven years of dating, it was probably scary for him to leave you without someone else waiting in the wings, which is why he started seeing someone before the two of you were broken up, so that when you were finally broken up, he’d have someone else to go to. In divorces, most men re-marry more quickly than their ex-wives do. Men actually like relationships a lot more than many women give them credit for! None of this is an excuse for him cheating on you, but if you understand why he did what he did, and talk to him about it, and tell him what you want and he can tell you what he wants, there’s a basis for starting over again.

It isn’t easy, and as you can see there is pain, but if you want to give it another try, this is how you start.

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