[Ask April Masini]

[b]You[/b] may want to spend the rest of your life with him, but [b]he’s [/b]not ACTING like he wants to spend his life with [b]you[/b]. I think you’re making a lot of excuses for him and for yourself. 😕

A man who’s ready to be married has certain ducks in a row. He’s at a certain point in his career. He has a certain amount of money to his name. He’s at a certain point in his social life and he starts hanging out with other couples, not singles. Your guy isn’t any of these, and while you want help mending a relationship, I don’t think you’re looking at the situation honestly.

Of course things change, people get sick, lose jobs — life happens, but if you’re waiting for him to suddenly feel that all that has gone away so NOW it’s time to get married, you’re kidding yourself. The wedding date that is two years from now 😯 after five years of an investment already, and it’s [i]not set in stone [/i] (huh??) is your way of giving him a free pass to treat you like the booby prize — not the grand blue ribbon prize.

The truth is that men feel great about themselves when they think they’ve chased and won a woman over. If you don’t give him something to win, you lose and so does he. 😳

I don’t think you’re ready to make the changes you want in order for the relationship to be different. I’m sorry. 😥