Let’s start backwards! You clearly see the pattern in your behavior. Your jealousy drives people away from you. If you continue, you will lose friends, boyfriends and possibly more people in your life because they will not want to be around your dramatic behavior. [i]So decide to stop acting out.[/i]
This is a discipline and if you feel you’re about to say something inappropriate, leave the room. Little kids get “time out” from their parents to help them learn to control inappropriate behavior. Be your own parent, and give yourself a time out when you feel bad behavior coming on. Remove yourself from the physical situation or hang up the phone or log off the internet. This will prevent the outbursts.
As for the feelings that lead to the bad behavior, you’re going to have to bolster your self esteem to feel like you are worthy of being the one and only girlfriend with any man. If you always feel like someone else is better than you, you’ll never be able to keep a man. 😳 This goes for friends, too. If you don’t feel like you’re good enough to be a friend with someone who has other friends, too, you won’t be able to keep a friend. So think about what it is you bring to a relationship and why that person is lucky to have you in their lives. Also understand that you will not be the one and only person in anyone’s life ever. Your boyfriend will have other female friends and acquaintances. Your friends will have other friends. Understand this and you’ll be able to allow other people in your life instead of feeling the need to cut them out because you’re threatened.
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