[Ask April Masini]

It sounds like you married a man who didn’t work when you were dating, didn’t work during the marriage, and doesn’t work now that you’re pregnant. 😳 What’s changed is that now YOU can’t work because you’re going to take maternity leave and this is going to make your financial situation difficult.

I know you think that he should get a job, but it’s time to put fantasy aside and deal with reality — especially because you’re about to become a mother. I don’t mean to be tough on you, but it’s ludicrous for you to expect him to change now. Life is hard for women who marry men because of their [i]potential[/i]. More often than not, they come to learn the hard way that potential is a lot less important than who a man REALLY IS.

My advice is that you make the most of what you have. If your husband is willing to be a stay at home dad, then you can continue being the bread winner and he can be the one to raise your child. I know that this isn’t what you want, and it isn’t what I want for you, but given the fact that you’ve chosen a guy who doesn’t work, married him, and had a baby with him, you now have very little choice except to support your child and him as you’ve been doing. 🙁

I wish you good luck. Let me know how things go.

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