If you haven’t had sex in three years, and she’s living with her mother (you didn’t mention for how long she’s been living there), and it sounds like you never married her — this isn’t new trouble. It sounds like you’ve had problems for at least 3 years now. The only difference is that suddenly, you see she’s interested in another man and you are now afraid of losing her.
It sounds like you’re already broken up since you don’t live together and you don’t have sex. If you’re interested, I think you have to try and pursue her like you would any other date — only harder because somehow along the way, you’ve lost her. And since she’s buying new lingerie and is interested in a married man, my guess is she’s looking for a sexual relationship, so you need to make sure to make her feel sexy when you’re around her.
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