[Ask April Masini]

If you were looking for an excuse to break up with your boyfriend, and kissing this other guy while you and your boyfriend were broken up is that excuse, then go ahead and use it. It’s not particularly mature, since the real reason you are breaking up with him is not because of this other guy. It’s because your relationship with your boyfriend ran it’s course — but lots of people create drama in order to facilitate break ups because the truth is harder to deal with.

The reality is that you kissed this guy while you were broken up with your boyfriend, so it’s not cheating.

I can’t tell you if you’ll be thinking about the other guy or not, but if you’re not happy with your boyfriend, you’re definitely going to think about the other guy — and any other distraction you can think of to get you out of your current relationship, at least in a fantasy type of way.

If you can’t live with having kissed another guy while you were broken up with your boyfriend, and technically single, then you need to think about the bigger picture when it comes to dating. It’s important to figure out what you want so you can go for it and not waste time (yours or his). Playing the field is a way of figuring out what you want in a relationship — and that’s what you were attempting to do.

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