It’s unfortunate but sometimes people get hurt. And when they do, they have a hard time trusting the next time around. You have found yourself as the recipient of that hurt your boyfriend felt in the past. Until he clears that issue up for himself, there is no amount of reassurance you can give him. It will be an bottomless pit. He just can’t hear you because in his heart he has trouble trusting that it won’t happen again. In other words, this isn’t about you. It’s about [i]him[/i]. With his filter of distrust, he may not be able to hear your reassurances clearly. Eventually, you may get tired of having to reassure him continually, and you will leave. You may get hurt in the process. You know the phrase: hurt people hurt people. Tread cautiously and continue to take care of yourself and make sure your needs are met. It’s troubling to hear someone say that they would rather put a gun to their head than hurt someone else. Most of us do not willingly want to hurt others. But your first obligation is to take care of yourself, whether in or out of a relationship. You may have to leave this guy and yes, that would hurt him possibly, but again, your first obligation is to care for yourself and [i]your life[/i], and not at the expense of making him happy or reassured. Good luck and take care.
Anonymous
