I’m not sure why he told you that, especially on a first date. It could be his way of letting you know that if you hurt him in some way, you’re going to be victimizing him, which is sort of manipulative and a sign that he’s not really ready for a relationship. Everyone knows that relationships don’t come with insurance and sometimes they work; sometimes they don’t. There’s love and there’s hurt, and that’s just the way the world works. What’s more important is that [b]you[/b] have enough reasonable doubts about this relationship and him to be able to list them numerically and write me — very early on in the relationship — and that’s your cue that this isn’t right, and you should move on. Don’t waste time with someone you’re this sure has so many incompatibilities with you. It’s much kinder for you and for him, if you recognize the incompatibilities and move on. You have very good instincts. Learn to trust them.
