[Ask April Masini]

One of the reasons that moving too fast is a bad idea is because you don’t get to find out how he really feels about you. Sex changes things, and the L word does, too. Men have sex because they can — and they WANT a woman who makes them work for it. When a man sticks around and woos you and your relationship builds, and you’ve chosen with a clear head, then you’ve got someone worth investing in. But you had sex and used the L word too quickly, and now his true feelings are beginning to show, he’s less interested in sex or the L word, and you’re disappointed. 😳

My advice is NOT to have “the talk”. Men hate the talk, and if you’re having to have “the talk” you’re relationship isn’t where you want it to be, and “the talk” isn’t going to get it there. The bottom line is that his feelings have faded. Rather than pursue him, you can be alluring and seductive and see if you can get his attention with your feminine wiles, but if you can’t, accept that this isn’t Mr. Right, and that you’ve let the early-relationship sex cloud your judgment.

It’s important to wait to have sex and say the L word so you can figure out if this person is someone who wants to invest in the long run with you — and you with him!

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