There are a couple of flashing yellow lights that caught my attention:
1. Your husband’s been cheating on you
2. Your ex-husband cheated on you and left you to pursue a gay lifestyle
3. You wrote that you are afraid to make the first move in your own bed with your husband
While it’s easy to paint you as the victim, I think it might be more helpful to try and figure out your part in these three scenarios. Don’t get the impression that I’m blaming you — I’m not. I want to give you some productive advice to try and heal your marriage.
Clearly, you have some problems expressing your sexuality with your husband. I’d like you to start regarding yourself as a sexual being more than you have before. Make your sexuality a priority. Be groomed every night and every day. Get a great lingerie wardrobe. Start fantasizing and living out those fantasies in your bedroom WITH your husband.
If you need help jumpstarting the process, read Romantic Date Ideas, [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/romantic-date-ideas.html[/url], a book I wrote with tips and advice to put the X back in your sex life. The book will download automatically and you can start reading today — and implementing tonight.
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