WOW! The only thing you really can do is try and talk with him. But be sure you are not coming across as accusitory or anything like that. If you can trust what he is saying then you shouldnt have to go through his things on a regular basis. I would definately not have a baby with him until your comfortable in the relationship and where it is going again. A divorce is hard enough and a child makes it that much harder! Just trust your feelings and communicate the best you can. Tell him about the msgs you found ask what the relationship with this man is and tell him why you are concerned about it. You have already “convinced” yourself that he is gay so whats the worst that could happen? He could be gay right? Just be non confrontational and try to talk. Its really all you can do. Best of luck I hope this helps.
