So last night I got tired of wondering. I sent her the following message:
I need to come clean with you about something. The main reason I did not come to your party or your friend’s is because I have feelings for you, and it doesn’t feel right for me to hang out anywhere with you and your boyfriend. I know you’ve been with Ben for four years, so I’m sure he’s a great guy. The last thing I want to do is screw up your relationship. I just had to let you know.
I guess now all there is to do is wait.