[April Masini, your AskApril]

No, there is no future for you with your boyfriend of four years. 🙁 I’m sorry, but I think you already know this and just want me to tell you what you don’t want to acknowledge. You are not being [i]too understanding[/i], as you described yourself in your post. Instead, you are being too much in denial. 😕

Here’s why he won’t marry you:

1. He’s 29 and you’ve been together for four years now. If you were Ms. Right, he’d have put a ring on it already.

2. He’s still living with his parents, which may be very normal in his culture, but he’s choosing his culture over you.

3. His culture does not approve of a marriage with you because you are outside his culture, and he’s making every part of his life (except for dating you) about his culture. Again, he’s committing to his culture, not you.

4. His behavior shows he will choose his family and his culture over you and you’re right, at some point he will marry a nice girl that his family and girl approve of because she will be right for the family which is his priority.

5. His promise that he will marry you in 3-5 years after dating you for 4 already, doesn’t add up. It’s his way of not lying to you outright, but putting you off with a very diluted promise of some commitment. Don’t buy it. If he really wanted you as a permanent part of his life, he’d give you an engagement ring with a wedding date, and if he needed time to get his family to accept you, he’d pick a wedding date that allowed for that time, but you’d have a commitment — at least in the form of jewelry!

6. He is at an age when men want to start a family. That he isn’t doing this with you means he’s looking elsewhere whether or not he admits it to you or himself, that’s what’s going on and I know you know it.

I’m sorry that you are so sad about this, but the reality is you should not waste any more time. Choose Mr. Right next time around and pay attention to who he REALLY is and what he REALLY wants in a woman and if you’re not compatible, it doesn’t matter how much you feel for him, whether it’s love or lust or like — compatibility is a deal breaker, as you can see.

Break up with him, amicably, and stop wasting your time and his. Get my book Think & Date Like A Man, and read it so you can understand better how to find, get and keep MR. RIGHT — not Mr. Could Be Right If Only He Was Different. 😉 Here’s the link for the book. Buy it: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url].

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