[Ask April Masini]

First of all, understand that when someone you’ve just met blasts you with tidal waves of emotion, and says things like “you’re meant to be,” “you’re the one” and that he’s afraid someone will steal you away — he’s probably saying the same things to other women, too. 😳 Dating is a process that is extremely useful if you actually employ it! You can get to know someone over time if you allow yourself that luxury, but if you don’t, and you jump into something that hasn’t had a chance to play out, you may find you’re in love with Mr. Wrong before you even got a chance to realize he was Mr. Wrong.

Consider baking. You put all the ingredients into the bowl, mix it up and bake it but you don’t want to wait the required hour for the cake to bake because you just know this cake is going to be amazing no matter what, and you take the cake out after twenty minutes and bite into it and it tastes like terrible, uncooked dough. You start trying to convince yourself that there’s a huge problem here because you added all the ingredients — flour, sugar, eggs, vanilla, baking soda, salt….. so, what gives? Answer: You didn’t give it time.

The next mistake, as you know, was pursuing him. One of the worst things you can do is start pouring your heart to some guy BECAUSE he’s not calling you. Seriously — do you really expect him to think you’re this great, confident woman who’s a real catch, and who he’s lucky to get if he hurries? 😕 It’s MUCH BETTER to give a guy something to chase because if he doesn’t, you know he’s not interested and you can move on and if he does, you’ve given him the greatest gift a relationship can have — he feels great about winning you over.

So, in response to your question about what you should do now, the answer is: move on. He’s not the one. If he is, he’ll come around. But more likely, he’s not interested any more. Use this rejection as a gift to find someone who is interested and wants to date you! 😉

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