The Playboy poster in a 19 year old boy’s room is pretty normal. Men are visual creatures and they get turned on by what they see more than what they hear or feel or smell or say. You have to also understand that 19 year old boys are very sexual — some studies show that that age is the peak of a man’s sexuality — so if your boyfriend likes looking at women he doesn’t know in pictures on his wall that he’s not sneaking or hiding from you, you’re not in a bad or risky relationship position.
As for the friend of his who is a girl, the feelings of jealousy may be healthy warning signs. That said, YOU have to decide if and how you’re going to act on your feelings. If you decide to forbid him from seeing her, you’ll lose him. If you make a big deal out of this, you’ll lose him, also. So look at the bigger picture before you act. Just because you have a feeling doesn’t mean you have to show it to everyone in every moment of every day. 😉
Be the best girlfriend you know how to be, and understand that although you both know a lot about love, the reality is that if this is meant to last, it will and you can’t force it. If it isn’t, then it won’t in spite of your best efforts.
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