[Anonymous]

I went out with her again a few nights ago. We held hands and kissed (that’s all we’ve ever done) and tonight she told me out of the blue she doesn’t want a relationship. I found this odd because it was so random and I know she has feelings for me which I told her she did lol (and she agreed) and I told her I do too. I don’t understand why she would say this so I challenged her and she told me she has no confidence in her self and doesn’t want one and just wants to be friends.

I told her well if you like me why do you have to analyze the relationship? We enjoy spending time together and we like eachother why can’t we just continue what we’ve been doing and she said I don’t want to lead you on.

After that I drove her home, on the way home she held my hand. I told her again I don’t understand where she is coming from. She told me she wants to hang out next week. I told her if it is as strictly platonic friends I’m not interested and she was like I don’t know. When I got to her house I said well what if I was to kiss you the next time were together would you? She seemed unsure. I said well ok I’ll kiss you now and she said thats it I’m leaving now to prove a point and gave me a hug and left. I was visibly upset but didn’t say anything. I just drove away.

She texted me last night saying she understands why I reacted that way and she deserved it. She also added she didn’t explain herself properly. I told her not to worry about it and we can have some more good times together. She told me all she does is worry so I told her to relax and if she wants to explain then she can.

I really care about this girl and if she is true in saying she has feelings for me why won’t she go with the flow as opposed to analyzing the situation? I want to spend time with her romantically and if she has feelings for me what can I do to assure that happens again?