Your being [i]fair[/i] doesn’t really enter into this. You have to be [i][b]realistic[/b][/i] instead. If you want to be married, you have to choose someone who also wants to be married. It feels like you’re trying to talk him into marriage because he isn’t willing to go there of his own volition. You’re smart, so you’re delivering a dissertation on the situation, but I’m smart, too 😆 so I can see you’re throwing up a smokescreen so you don’t have to deal with the fact that he’s not offering you a ring, a proposal or a date. Giving him an ultimatum (which is essentially what you’re doing by giving him a date when he has to decide or lose you) isn’t the best way to approach a man, and will usually come back to haunt you later.
