[Ask April Masini]

First of all, your sister is right, but more importantly I find it strange that you are worried about ruining a friendship rather than possibly ruining your marriage! 😕 You had an affair, realized it was a mistake and chose your husband over your fling. Focus on that choice, assuming it is what you want. If you aren’t sure you’re going to have problems. Make a full fledged choice and honor it.

Grown ups understand that behavior has consequences, and you and yours is no different. You can’t be friends with the man you cheated on your husband with if you want to focus on your marriage and make it work out. Pick one man and let the other one go. It’s really that simple. If you want your husband and not your fling then stop talking to and about this other guy. That’s the price you need to pay for your fling. Trust me — that price could be a lot higher.

Second of all, in response to your question about making a marriage work when your husband travels and only sees you once a week, count your blessings. Be glad that your husband has a job. Be glad that he is good at that job. Be glad that he is working to contribute to your marriage and your family. Be glad that you get to see him once a week. Many wives of servicemen who are deployed don’t see their husbands for months on end. Make the most of what you do have. During that one night a week, be your best self in every way 😎 and show your appreciation for your marriage, your husband and what you DO have.

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