Thank you for your advice. I will look into getting that book.
As far as what more is going on with her, this is a case of DHS over reacting.
My stress is seeing her in pain and feeling powerless to help. More of my issues are being only employed part time, finally begining a relationship with great potential, and again not being able to do more for the woman I love.
Thank you again for your advice. I will try and be more romantic or work on learning to be more romantic.