AnonymousThanks for the feedback….harsh as it was. I haven’t logged on since first posting back in late May, but now that I’ve read your feedback I wish that I had! But after investing a good 6 months in this ‘online relationship’, I have finally pulled the plug on it, but not after much much more relationship drama. In the meantime, I met my ‘online friend’s’ brother, while he was in my town on a conference and found out that my ‘online friend’ is in fact MUCH younger than he led me to believe, in fact over 20 years younger!!!!! And when I called him on his lie, he couldn’t understand why I was so upset…..REALLY??
I also recently learned that my friend’s Visa application was imaginary, and that he’d been getting scammed by a migration agent – no surprise there. Well this was the final straw for me and I let him know I wanted out……and he didn’t take this well, responding with threats to kill himself – which was a major turn-off; but I guess I shouldn’t be too surprised given his age & maturity level
I now feel like a real fool for getting dragged into this whole fantasy. You’re so right, a relationship which is played out entirely online is NOT a relationship……and I tried to tell him this repeatedly, but he kept insisting that he would do whatever it took to be with me in person!! However, he made promises he wasn’t able to keep and without researching the immigration process…..only to find out it’s virtually impossible to get a Visa to Australia from his country – not impossible, but certainly not as easy as he’d first assumed!
This ordeal has really taken its toll on me and I’m now in damage control. I invested 6 months of my life in this relationship which went nowhere and that’s time I’ll never get back. Not to mention the time it will take to heal and get back my motivation
April…..I’m really tired of getting into these relationships that go nowhere. What am I doing wrong? Why do I keep attracting & getting dragged into situations that are doomed from the outset??
