Yes. It helps…but it sucks. lol
I agree…honesty is what I am hitching it to, but clearly in her mind (she hasn’t said so but) she was cheated on all her life, “why wouldn’t he cheat…he’s a likely candidate”. Like you said…I had to be honest with her. The one thing I learned in my marriage was honestly and communication. It’s what that lifestyle promoted for us…things that most marriages have never had. I just think being apart doesn’t fix anything…I dunno…I just think being able to show her what trust, honesty and respect looks like can push the thoughts out of her head.
But…maybe you are right…maybe it’s impossible.
I’ll give her (her) space…but I will ask one more question…do I check in with her (just to say hello not ask her if she made a decision) or do I let her make the contact? BTW…she has made contact several times, so I know I am on her mind at the least. Is it wrong for me to contact her? ie I know she has a big work event out of town, her mother is ill going in for surgery…and I’d like to sincerely check on her…but not if it breaks the code of “space”.
Thank you again for taking the time.
