Ask April MasiniIf he’s seeing someone else and just bought a house (with her?), and is on “the war path” towards getting married, having kids and settling down, this isn’t a good person for you, at age 30, to be befriending right now. What you really need to do is focus on what’s best for you, and if you find Mr. Right, you’re going to be a much happier, more settled and focused person yourself. At that time, you can try befriending your old friend and ex-lover without the same risk of upsetting yourself, him, his new girlfriend/fiance/wife. However, once you do find Mr. Right (and I know this is hard to believe right now), you may not need his friendship any more, and a benign disconnect may be the best thing for both of you.
His rejection, telling you you’re not marriage material (for him), is understandably painful, but it’s really a gift in disguise. He’s saved you the time and pain of wasting your relationship energy on someone who was never going to commit to you. Embrace your freedom and start to look outward instead of backwards towards him. Once you get out there and begin dating again, you’re going to feel differently about your friendship with him.
I hope that helps!
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