Because you live in a culture where your family chooses your husband for you, and you seem very committed to your family, you should talk to your mother about your concerns. My guess is that she had her husband chosen for her by her family, too, and she may have had some of the same feelings when she was your age that you are having now. If you’re able to talk to your father or other family members, they may be able to enlighten you about this process and the man you’re being matched with.
As for this guy, the truth is you don’t know him and you owe it to yourself to get to know him. Because you’re only sixteen and admittedly have very little experience with men, you should try and understand that there is more you don’t know than what you do know. Talk to him and get to know him. Be honest with him about your feelings and trepidation. You may be surprised at his reactions.
Since there is nothing to be done for two or three years, keep the channels of communication with your parents open and give them feedback about your feelings, your burgeoning relationship with this man, and what you want for your life. They may be traditional, but I bet they’ll listen to you and talk to you about your concerns.
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