Anonymous
Unless he is physically harming you or threatening to he can’t MAKE you do anything but I do understand. He can be verbally abusive if you don’t, possibly withholding love or affection to manipulate you into getting what he wants which may not show the same scars on a persons body but can be extremely devestating. It can make you feel unloved and shoot your confidence but it happens so gradually over a period of time you don’t notice it until it is too late or you are too scared to leave because he has made you feel n o one else will want you. Or maybe you feel that on your own because your self esteem has suffered.
April was also right in saying you NEED to assert yourself. Stand up to him no matter how difficult because you are the most important person in your life. Think of yourself as the star of your movie. Why are you letting hI’m star in your movie?
I feel it would be in your best interest, if you want to get with him again to stand up and let him know you want to see the changes BEFORE you two get back together. Therapy should be started before you get back together and you would like to see behavior changes as well. You deserve it. As much as you might never want to hear this though and I have been through it so I know it’s hard to hear. You have a part in this as well. Someone cannot step on you if you don’t allow it. It may be an idea for you to go to therapy as well to help rebuild your confidence and learn to stand up for yourself for the sake of either this relationship or any other romantic venture you have. I believe men want real women not doormats when it comes to serious relationships and you should learn men cannot control you unless you let them. If you want to say no say no and if he leaves you because you have the wrong car or bank account brush your shoulders off because he never loved you. You need to love you first and others will respect you. Not just in live but in life.
