This guy did you a huge favor — now take the gift. When a man is honest with you that there is something about you that is a deal breaker, be grateful you’re not hearing it six months or twelve months or twenty-four months into a relationship. Lots of men have relationship deal breakers and those deal breakers can be dating a woman who has children, or women of a certain religion, or they want a woman who works and has an income, or one who doesn’t, etc. Don’t judge him for knowing himself. Instead, be accepting and understanding that the last thing you want, as a single mother, is a guy who’s not going to be there with both feet in. Now you know he’s not Mr. Right, don’t try to make him be something he’s no.
The reality is that everyone has “baggage” and you have to find someone with matching luggage. Don’t hide the fact that you have children next time you date — get it out upfront so you don’t find yourself in this position again.
My advice is to look for a single father to date. You’ll have a common language because you’re both single parents, and you’ll have a better understanding of what you may or may not be getting into if you end up getting married.
I hope this helps — let me know how it goes. And join me on Facebook. Here’s that link: [url][/url].
