AnonymousFew years back I had a boyfriend for a few months that confessed to me he was addicted to porn. Now i have to tell you that I am not and I was not overweight , on the contrary since I am a physical training specialist , he used to often compliment me about my shape and stamina. Still, he was spending nights watching porn !
So, his addiction is partly not because of your weight gain.
On the other hand most of my female clients have this sort of issue not only after child birth , but usually when they let themselves go and put on too much weight or they are generally not taking care of their body. Men are visual beings and even if they say they still love your “heart” .
Dear Shiloh , in life and relationships in general we are playing a role , all the time and even if we want people’s compassion and understanding for a while we are still on the “stage” , all the time. There are things in life only we can do and it’s our responsibility to do it. Taking care of your body in all circumstances of life is one of them.
Taking care of your health and good looks.
From my experience pregnancy and child birth are trying times . A lot of my clients managed to go through this without significant body changes. But they took real responsibility for it, they worked hard, exercised and did not eat for two. I am telling you all these to encourage you , to give you confidence in your body and your ability to shape it and control it at all times.
Now I can give you an idea relating to your body issue.
Do not feel a victim, do not get depressed, do not take the excuses road. Take responsibility. This is very empowering and the only way to improve your body shape. Make it as a strong inner decision and work at it with your whole being. Do not talk about it. Just do it.
Get professional help, go to the gym, read about nutrition, hire a personal trainer if you can afford, get all the help you need along the way. In addition to that use your mind as a tool. Stay positive, and when you feel the
going gets difficult ask sincerely for help from professionals. Give yourself some time , fast weight loss is ineffective in the long term. Work on losing weight slowly while toning your muscles. Do weight training three times a week. That will create tone in your body and will act as natural medicine for your body and mind.
Amazing things will happen: your self confidence and trust in your ability will increase tremendously, you will commend respect from others without winning or asking for it, you will understand your limitless power on recreating yourself, you will gain knowledge about dealing with yourself that will help you later on in life.
It is an investment that nobody can take from you no matter who is in your life, who wants to stay or who wants to go.
I have to tell you that the physical aspect becomes a problem in many couples . Some of them take responsibility and work on it. One of the results is a spark in sex life.
I hope this helps and looking forward to read from April ,
Purple Rain
