You mention your parents fighting and how this led you to a lot of uncertainty about how to best communicate. It sounds like you ended up often going from one extreme to the other and she had a hard time with this. So it ended for now. But the interesting thing is that could be the very reason you were attracted was to help each other with this very issue. I would talk to her and explain that you have a chance to help each other realize how your past has led you to this very issue where you are clashing and to heal it in a way your parents never could. If she’s willing to see the relationship as a chance to grow and learn and so are you, and you could commit to helping each other do that, it could be great. If either of you can’t commit to that, though, then you probably will just keep clashing.
