You bring up a really good point. Is the fleeting spark we all sometimes feel with someone, something we should let govern our lives and give up mature relationships for?
Depending on where you are in your life and what you want, the answer is no. Sparks, lust and attraction are all feelings that turn our heads, but they’re not feelings you can bank on. When you’re ready for a committed, long term relationship, you have to understand that feelings ebb and flow and those sparks come and go. Your relationship with Kyle is hot and cold and it isn’t something you can count on for the long run. Imagine if you had kids, and he’s in and out of your life. At some point you’ll understand that Kyle is part of your capricious past and that you’re ready for someone who is going to be there day in and day out, for better or for worse. Kyle has his assets, but longevity and consistency aren’t two of them — and those are important.
I hope that helps.
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