First of all, the crush on the other guy isn’t going anywhere as long as you’re involved with your four year boyfriend. So, decide if you want to stay with him or not before you start looking for a new guy to date. If you’re not fully available, you’re not going to know what’s out there! 🙂
It sounds like you’re afraid to be alone, so you’re staying with a guy who cheated on you, had unprotected sex, and now has fathered a son — while he was dating you — and didn’t tell you for an entire year. 😳 Part of you wants to move on, but you’re afraid to be alone, so you won’t unless you know you have another boyfriend lined up — and in order to do so, you’re sort of settling for someone who may be available to fill the spot in case you do break up! 😕
You’re either scared of being alone, lazy or a combination of both. My advice is you deal with those problems so you correct the part of you that allows you to stay with a guy for four years when you’re not sure he’s the one, and that keeps you from really dating smart.
You should read, Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], a book I wrote for women who want to find, get and keep Mr. Right. You need it! You can also buy the book on Amazon or Barnes & Noble websites.
Read the book — and if you do write again, please remember to include the ages of everyone you’re talking about!
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