How many times, exactly, have you lived with different men? And how old are you?
It sounds like you’ve done it a lot, so you have a lot of experience to draw on. Figure out why you lived with the men you did, and why things didn’t work out. While living together can be a valuable step towards learning if you want to marry someone or not, the truth is that even living together successfully before marriage can’t stop a divorce from happening. There are all sorts of reasons marriages work and don’t work — living together can be prudent, but it isn’t an insurance policy, as you seem to already know.
Would you feel better if a man proposed marriage to you with a date for the wedding that allowed for ample time to live together before the big day? It seems like dating seriously for a year should be plenty of time for people of marrying age, and marrying status (jobs are in order, they’re emotionally ready, socially ready, etc.) to figure out without living together if a person is Mr. or Ms. Right. I don’t know how long you’ve been dating this guy or whether or not you feel serious about him, so let me know if this helps!
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