Ask April Masini
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can you please answer all of these?
-did he ever wanna hookup with me?
-do you think that he just didn’t think I was hott and he’s not attracted to me?
-why didn’t he answer me when I asked if he was attracted to me?
do you think I was just a waste of time to him and he doesnt wanna hookup anymore because he didnt get it the first time? even though im telling him i will do it the next time.
-Yes, he did want to hook up with you. I’m not sure why you don’t realize that since he made it crystal clear.
-He was attracted to you for sex only. He was never interested in you for anything more than that. He doesn’t care about you. He just wants to use you.
-He thought you were hot enough to use for sex, but not hot enough to chase after.
-Yes, you became a waste of time to him when you started making him work for sex. He’s only interested in sex, and he’s made that wildly clear. He’s looking for someone easier.
Now that I’ve answered your questions, I hope you’ll take some time to reflect on yourself and your own behavior. What you need to understand is that guys only need a place to have sex. If a guy likes you and wants more than sex from you, he’ll act like it. YOU need to play a part in this. If you tell a guy who’s teasing you about hooking up that you don’t just want to have sex, but you want to hang out, too — you’ve sold yourself way short. He’s figuring, if I hang out with her for x number of nights, then I can get sex from her. What you should have done is ignore him and only spent time and energy with men who will treat you like a valuable human being. This doesn’t mean they won’t find you sexy — it means they’ll find you sexy and valuable as a human being and as a woman.
Obviously your calling him up and offering him oral sex was a mistake for the record books — I hope you know that. This isn’t your boyfriend with whom you have a valuable and mutually respectful relationship — because that would, frankly, be okay. This is some guy who doesn’t care about you and now you were throwing sex at him — and he rejected that!
Learn what you can from this experience and leave this guy alone. You can do a lot better — if you allow yourself too!
